If you have a history with a family member and you are needed to be their caretaker, can you do it? Some say they feel they can take care of people they don’t know much easier than a family member. Why?
When you take care of those you do not know are you giving them the best of you? Are you being disconnected to the need for their connection and human care?
When we care for those we loved or those who are part of a family, we have expectations and history. The experiences we may have had or longed to have are in the forefront like a soundtrack on bad recorders in your head.
So are you caretaking from the heart? Are you connecting with the heart of the person you are helping? Can you hear your soundtrack and heal the past while allowing for unconditional love to flow in caretaking?
What really gets in the way is our mind, our thoughts and our experiences. If we have great experiences,this will show up as unconditional love for the ill person. However, if we have had turbulent past events, unconditional love is generally not attainable.
Might you be in this place and someone asks for your help, sit for a second and see if your heart is in it and you can give unconditionally without guilt. Remember, the person asking for care also does not deserve to have you take out your aggression or issues on them. They may be at the end of their life or at the most vulnerable time of their life and to honor the human being is what is needed.
When two hearts connect for the healing and being completed with life is the greatest moment that moves mountains. It drops grown men to their knees and great women hold them in their arms. A gift, the connection is what is being asked for, what is playing out each day and is the reason we are all here.
While there are many who lay out how to be a great loving caregiver, I can talk and offer possibilities for those who have not had the best in life, are angry with the process and just hanging on for dear life. We can open up the coffers you have put all your secrets and pains in to start and release the old. A healing life and love for the moment are the path of a life well lived.